Monday, September 28, 2009

Frownie Faces...

Frownie Face: n: meaning what your child receives on his daily, preschool progress report for acting poorly while at school.

The other day I picked little man up from pre-school and his teacher basically attacked me in order to tell me about the horrible thing he had done that day. I was thinking "Oh great! He threw rocks. He spit. He cut someones hair."

Come to find out a little girl at school had gotten a hair cut. Not just any cut, but a really, super short one. My little man was kind enough to inform her that she, and I quote, "Looked like a boy!"

Okay, I'm a reasonable person and all, and yes I know that this probably hurt the little girl's feelings (which makes me sad), but he's five for crying out loud! Am I silly for thinking a lot of 5 year olds state the obvious like that? I mean I do think he should have been talked to about how he hurt her feelings and how we don't always have to say exactly what is on our minds especially if it will hurt someones feelings (even if it is true), but was it necessary to wig and to make me feel like he was this horrible kid that goes around hurting people's feelings on purpose? I mean he can be really sweet ya know! He just needs to learn to filter for cryin' out loud!

Needless to say: Frownie Face!

P.S. I'm sure everyone thinks I'm heartless now...sorry.

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14 comments:

KT said...

I do not think you are heartless! If that were my classroom, I think that I would have spoken to him about how his comment hurt the girl's feelings and then asked him to apologize....end of story. In my class, a little boy actually CUT a girl's hair...that was probably more deserving of the sad face!

Katie
www.sneakerteacher.blogspot.com

jenjen said...

You are not heartless Kasey. Kids that age are so truthful - he was just stating his opinion. Don't feel bad! Maybe if you talked to him and asked him to say something nice to the little girl the next time he goes to school.

((hugs))
Jen

Mommy Dear said...

I'm so with you on this one! This has happened with my kindergartener, and I'm like, REALLY???

Your poor little guy. He was just being honest. He was probably wondering why teacher got so upset! I wouldn't worry about it too much, though. Chances are, she hands out lots of these if you got one for something like that!!!

Shawn said...

You heartless? NEVER!

He's a child for goodness sake! He shouldn't have said it, I guess, but he did. Kids are honest to the core sometimes and are just that, kids. A simple "now Little-Man, that wasn't very nice, you hurt her feelings please say you're sorry" from the teacher probably would have taught him that lesson. After all teaching life lessons while at school is also her job!

I don't know, maybe I'm heartless too?

Kelly said...

Nope- another teacher here :) Nothing to panic about. I would've talked to him too like Katie said, but probably never even mentioned it to the mom. That's very typical of a 5 year old and we just need to teach them to think that to themselves haha. In my class, that would be a kid having a good day haha...she must have a group of angels!

♥Amber Filkins♥ said...

Hey, you're blogging again! I also don't think you're heartless. I think you make a very valid point, he's FIVE!! He just needs to learn to filter. I'm sure it really did hurt her feelings, but the teacher shouldn't have made it such a big deal. If she responded that way to YOU, just imagine how she probably responded to him. :(

Allyson said...

Geez. How can a teacher get down on the young guy for speaking the truth? Kids should be able to say what they feel. That's what being a kid is all about. Shame on that teacher.

Emily said...

I am with you. It seems like the situation could have been handled better (on the teacher's part). I think your little guy was acting exactly the way a 5 year old boy should!

kimert said...

Nope, you are not heartless! Nor do I think that what your sweet guy said should have been taken to such extremes! I mean doesn't the whole "smiley, frowny face" whatever thing have to do with how the kid's whole day went? And what a goofy teacher to attack you and make you feel like your kid had done something "awful!"
I think sometimes people don't realize how innocent a small child really is when they do say things. I am sure your son only meant that he noticed the girl's short haircut without even thinking that if he said, "you look like a boy" that it would be hurtful to her. I really think it could have been worse.

Becca @ The Texas Darlings said...

Totally agree with you!! I think some teachers over-react!!

~Becca

Amy said...

No children do say crazy things. I had short hair like a boy while growing up and a lady that waited on us said, what will he have?. My Mom was like can't you see her earrings? She did not get in trouble at her job.

Michelle said...

Kids that age just say what is on their mind, I for sure would not have run to the parent like the world ended if that was a student in my preschool class.

Ali said...

He's 5. And he's a boy.

My opinion? Little man is totally entitled.

And this is coming from a girl who was called the same thing when she had a boy haircut...at 5 years old!

Bethany said...

I'm a teacher of pre-schoolers and kinders and I completely agree with you. Kids that age completely speak what they see as the truth, last year a couple of Caucasian kids called an African-American child "chocolate"-- it was cute and they saw themselves as "vanilla"- it's how they see it!